Steve 31st January 2014

Caroline was born on the 5th of August 1961. She was brought up by her parents, Joy and Arthur, in Kenilworth and lived there with her elder sister, Melanie. Her school reports show that Caroline was very studious and worked hard, excelling in English and Music. Caroline was an accomplished pianist achieving Grade 8 whilst at Secondary school. Even at the age of 9 one of her teachers managed to capture the Caroline came to know saying ‘She is pleasant in class but can be provocative on occasions’. When Caroline was 18 she went to Reading University to study English, gaining a 2:1. After completing her degree she did not know what to do next and for some reason enrolled at secretarial college. As a feminist this was indeed a big challenge and not surprisingly she only lasted a few weeks! The final straw was a talk on ‘How to look after your male boss’ which included remembering the bosses wife’s birthday and sending flowers to her on his behalf in case he forgot. Caroline then decided to become a primary school teacher and over the years worked as a class teacher, specialist 1:1 teacher and then finally focussing on dyslexia. She was a very talented teacher. Caroline and Steve met on the first day of University and married 6 years later in 1985. In 1989 James was born and eighteen months later in 1990 Sam was born. During this period the family moved around a lot with Steve’s job, including a year in Switzerland, before settling in Goring in 1996. James and Sam attended Goring Primary School, Langtree and Henley College before going on to University and gaining good degrees. Caroline was always so proud of ‘her boys’ and instilled in them a love of music, literature and culture. Caroline continued to teach and combined this with a lot of voluntary work. In 2008 following a visit to Swaziland Caroline and Steve set up the charity, Changing Futures, to support education projects there. Caroline was passionate about girls education and women’s independence and directed a lot of her energy to these projects. On hearing of her passing we received a tribute from one of our collaborators in Swaziland, Pastor Ken Jefferson of which the following is a part: ‘High in the mountains of this kingdom, women are able to feed their children and send them too school because Caroline cared. Far down in the Lowveld, school pupils have pride, to which they were once strangers. Across the length and breadth of Swaziland people are reaching out to help the needy, offering them a hand up because they once met Caroline and were motivated by her example. Thank you for everything Caroline. Africa is better for your being here.’ What about Caroline as a person. It is so difficult to find all the words. Whoever met Caroline never forgot her. Caroline was open with people and always had a smile for everyone. She made people feel valued and special. When Caroline started chemotherapy she knew all the nurses names and a little bit about them within an hour of being there. Subsequently whenever Caroline went there all the nurses wanted to be the one to look after Caroline that day. When Caroline went back 12 months later one of the nurses burst into floods of tears as she knew the treatment had not worked. Caroline was beautiful, vivacious, thoughtful and kind. She loved and lived life to the full, was intelligent, had a cheeky and wicked sense of humour and an infectious laugh. Yes, Caroline was scatty and things were often a bit chaotic around her but everyone loved this side of her personality as it made her who she was. Caroline was a very courageous person. When she was diagnosed with cancer in 2011 she never said ‘why me?’ When last year she found that the cancer had spread she never complained. She was only concerned about the effect it would have on others. A quote from AA Milne sums up Caroline’s approach to life: ‘What day is?’ asked Pooh ‘It’s today’ squeaked Piglet ‘My favourite day.’ said Pooh Caroline woke up looking forward to every day. She packed as much as she could into each day, whether it was teaching, walking with friends, going to Zumba or simply lying on the sofa with a glass of wine and watching Strictly or Downton. Caroline would always be doing something. We must not forget the way Caroline lived her life as it is an example to all of us. Whilst Caroline has now gone she will live on in all our hearts forever.